Your first online support group meeting: what to expect

The hardest part of joining a support group is usually the bit before you join. You wonder who will be there, whether you will have to speak, and whether your problems are "bad enough". So here is what to expect from your first meeting, and a few things that make it easier.

You do not have to say anything

This is the question we hear most. The answer is no. Plenty of people spend their first meeting, or their first few, just listening. Hearing someone else describe something you thought only you felt can be enough on its own.

When you do want to speak, you share as much or as little as you like. Nobody will push you for details.

What you need

Because our group meets online, you can join from wherever you are. You need:

• A phone, tablet or computer with an internet connection.
• Somewhere you can talk and listen without being overheard, if you can manage it. Some people sit in the car or go for a walk with headphones.
• A few minutes before the start to settle in, check your sound works and make a cup of tea.

Who will be there

People who are going through something hard. That might be grief, a breakdown, the after-effects of abuse or assault, a divorce, or family problems. Some of them will have heard the podcast, some will not. Everyone was new once.

Is it the same as counselling?

A counselling support group is a place for support and conversation with other people. It can help a great deal, but it is not a replacement for one-to-one therapy, your GP or emergency services. If you need help urgently, our get help page lists free services you can contact today, including Samaritans on 116 123.

Getting the most from it

• Give it more than one go. First meetings are often awkward. The second is usually easier.
• Be kind to yourself afterwards. Listening to other people's stories, and telling your own, can be tiring. Plan something restful.
• Take what helps and leave the rest. Not every story will speak to you, and that is fine.

How to join

Send us a message through the support group page or give us a ring. Tell us a little about what you would like support with, if you want to, and we will let you know when the next meeting is and how to join it.